- About the Book

HOW TO BE CHERISHED:
A Guide to Having the Love You Desire
by Marilyn Graman and Maureen Walsh
with Hillary Wells
Published by Life Works Books

How to Be Cherished is the third book by authors Marilyn Graman and Maureen Walsh, co-founders of Life Works, a Greenwich Village firm that helps women create fulfilling lives, including finding the men of their dreams and keeping the love alive through the challenges of cohabitation. How to Be Cherished is based on a seminar of the same name taught at Life Works.

After the bloom is off the romance, many women live their lives between a rock (an island of loneliness) and a hard place (their man). Life Works is often their last step before heading out the door -- through separation, divorce, or an affair. Yet Life Works has not only saved marriages -- they've shown women how to be cherished by their men, how to be desired as though the relationship were a new bud ripe with promise.

For many women, the heart has become a closed room, shut off in self-defense. Chapter by chapter, Graman and Walsh show readers how to open that door again -- ten degrees at first, then wider and wider -- until there is enough room to hold the man you have -- the whole man, his good parts and his bad parts. When that happens, most men respond in kind, opening their hearts to you, treating you with tenderness and affection, anticipating your needs and keeping their promises.

In short, the answer to having the love you desire is not in this book -- or any book -- or any other man; it's in yourself, in your heart, which waits to be warmed and wakened. How to Be Cherished shows you how to access the love you want. Some of the secrets revealed in this practical guidebook and illustrated with the stories of real women overcoming the obstacles to lasting love are:

• Knowing your power. Like it or not, women control the relationship. It is within your power to change the direction things are going. Knowing you are powerful gives you confidence. And confidence is sexy. It's your responsibility to build the relationship you want, and it's within your power to do so.

• Owing your part. The most difficult words in the English language are, "I'm sorry." But you have to say them. Forgive yourself first. Then forgive your man -- or forget him. Which would you rather hold onto at night: your anger or your man?

• Put yourself in your man's shoes. Put yourself in his heart. When he tries to give you what you want, do you criticize his fumbling efforts, or gently steer him in the right direction? If you feel unappreciated, chances are he does, too. The minute you start to appreciate him, he'll reciprocate like ringing a bell.

• Learn from your man. He is simpler than you are, more lighthearted and less contemplative, more straightforward and less curvaceous, more impulsive and less thoughtful. There are things he can teach you about living in the present instead of dwelling on the past.

Intended for women in all stages of relationship, How to Be Cherished offers a new model for relationships by recognizing women's intrinsic power and revealing the deep desire men have to please their partners.

Copyright ©2004 by Marilyn Graman and Maureen Walsh. All rights reserved. Please feel free to duplicate or distribute this file, as long as the content is not changed and this copyright notice is intact. Thank you.

- About the Book

The Female Power Within

Discover the Extraordinary Power in Being Female!

Many women have achieved goals, personally and professionally, that our mothers and grandmothers could only dream of. We head corporations, compete in marathons, hold elected office, lead expeditions, write prize-winning novels, run universities, and in some cases raise children as well. We're so busy, in fact, that we often don't even have time to ask ourselves, "Is this what I want to be doing? Am I happy in my life? Is this it?"

In this rich and reassuring book, psychotherapist and creator of Life Works programs Marilyn Graman and her longtime associate Maureen Walsh give you the opportunity to ask these questions at last. You'll look at the cost of striving for power and success on male terms and discover what a truly successful life would be for you if you could define it for yourself. In short, you will discover the incredible power of being female.

Dozens of original "uncoverings" and reflective questions will help you see how you've been measuring yourself by "scorecards" that don't make sense for you and to get so clear and grounded in mind and body that the life you want just begins to flow toward you. The adrenaline rush of struggling and competing and never feeling centered and peaceful will simply lose its appeal as you open up to the magnificent power you already have within you.

As you begin to relax into your female power, you will be amazed at how much energy you liberate for making wise choices, receiving all the good there is to be had, drawing wonderful people toward you, and just plain having fun!

"The Female Power Within is a groundbreaking exploration of the nature of women's power."
-- Arianna Huffington, syndicated columnist and author

"An exciting and meaningful contribution to the worldwide shift occurring in women today. If you're serious about self-discovery, read this book!"
-- Beth Greer, President, The Learning Annex

"The Female Power Within is a beautifully written guidebook to help you tap into the inner reservoir of peace and joy that is your true nature."
-- Sri Swami Satchidananda, Integral Yoga Institutes

Copyright ©2002 by Marilyn Graman and Maureen Walsh. All Rights Reserved. Please feel free to duplicate and distribute this file as long as the excerpt has not been changed and this copyright notice is intact. Thank you.